Where are you “REALLY” from? What are you?
Take a listen and read why to avoid asking “Where are you really from?”
When you ask this question, this is inferring, to the person you don’t belong here? You are a foreigner. I don’t see you as an American.
The badgering questions feels like an interrogation. The other person you are questioning feels like you want them to prove their identity with a passport. This puts the questioner as the position of authority and the person of color as lesser and other.
Listen to the 3 minute Rap about the problems about asking “Where are you really from?
The follow up questions or comments are also not welcomed.
- “Oh, the Vietnam war.”
- “Are you a communist?”
- “I met a Cambodian kid 10 years ago.”
- “I like Chinese food.”
Read this Harvard Business Review by Rakshitha Arni Ravishankar
- 1) There’s a fine line between curiosity and microaggression.
- 2) It reduces people to a representative of a larger group.
- 3) It’s the intent behind the question that matters.
- 4) It’s a reflection of the existing (unequal) power structures.